My wife has some severe insecurities. #1 Being her difficulty in communicating. #2 She doesn’t like her body.
My wife has gained weight over the years (about 10 lbs), couple that with the fact that she has a very interesting shape. She’s very large chested, but is very short & petite. She’s a size 7 (medium). She is the smallest woman I’ve been with since high school, as I usually have dated plus sized women.
I have noticed my wife’s weight gain and haven’t said anything to her about it. It doesn’t bother me at all. I think she’s gorgeous. She is very insecure about her body and because of it she wouldn’t wear lingerie for a long time. Actually, she’s more insecure about her body in lingerie than she is with her naked body.
For a long time she just refused to wear lingerie, which was an issue for me because she knew how much I like it. And she would make excuses: She didn’t have the money, she threw away the old lingerie because it didn’t fit, why couldn’t I love her without it, etc.
She finally opened up to me (after 3 years of this problem) and told me that most of it doesn’t fit her properly and it’s not that she feels uncomfortable in it…its that it constantly reminds her that she has an odd shaped body.
I ALWAYS compliment my wife on her body, and when she dresses sexy. I am always romantic and touchy feeling with her when she’s in lingerie on even if she has on pretty underwear under her clothes…just so that she knows at least one person (the person who counts) likes the way she looks.
My wife by no stretch of the imagination is unattractive. She has what I call a "stripper body". And if a stripper can find clothes/lingerie…so can she. My wife frequents Las Vegas and she says that’s the only place she can find lingerie or pretty bras to fit her, but she won’t go get any when she goes. She won’t buy online, because she says that she has to try things on…and I have wasted money before testing that…because half the clothes that "claimed" to be her size fit & the other half didn’t.
I know that self-esteem begins with SELF…but there has to be something that I can do?
I don’t always feel attractive…and I’ve gained way more than 10lbs since we’ve been married, but when my wife compliments me…it absolutely makes my day.
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