One day… I will have kids (1 or 2). I will have my Ph.D in Psychology. Whatever career I choose in the feild, I will balance the 2 to the best of my ability.
I am a 4th year undergraduate (I will graduate after my 5th year).
My problem: When to have kids.
I’m minoring in sociology, and I’m learning so much about women in the professtional workforce. In particular, the income gap between men and women. One of the greatest reasons for this gap is the amount of time women take off from work for maternity leave and childcare. I have a wonderful man to support my schooling and my future career, and it would only make sense for him to take off work for childcare reasons (I’ll be making more $ than him).
But what about this maternity leave thing? Also, I may not get my PhD until I’m close to 30 (I’m not waiting that long to have kids!). I don’t want to take any time off from school (1 semester at most).
(to be continued….)
I’m not trying to be stupid on this subject. I want to be smart about when to have children, but also smart about my career.
I have a 7 y/o stepson. His mother is not in the picture. I am already a mother, just not in the biological sense.
I need advice from EXPERIENCED mothers! I want to do this right!
I believe I sound a bit selfish about the income thing. Yes, I’d love a big paycheck for me and my family. I also want the promotions and support of whoever I’m working for. I’m a hard worker and I want that to be reflected in my pay and my status at my employer. Like I said, I’ll be the breadwinner of the family… not my man. We’re very egalatarian; so no one needs to say I need to spend ALL or MOST of my time at home. Men and women can be excellent caretakers. Men and women can be crappy caretakers.
I NEVER said that my career and my kids are equal!!!
I said I would BALANCE the two.
I balance school and motherhood right now. Would I choose school over my stepson? Hell no! Hopefully it will never come down to that!
WI MOM:
Not all people are from the middle class.
When you are a part of the working class, both parents usually work. If they don’t work, then the kids will not have a fricken roof over their heads!!!
I’m going to school so I won’t have to worry if bill can be paid or not.
You just insulted my mother, a single mom, who COULDN’T stay at home, even if she had a choice.
You just insulted my sister, who goes to college and has a 22 month old son.
You just insulted my grandmother, who worked her ass off with my grandfather so they could be part of that middle class (upper-middle) of yours.
You just insulted my 2 best friends, who work hard to put food on their childrens’ table.
You just insulted a little less than half of the female population in the U.S.
I hope you feel great about yourself.
WI MOM:
I never said YOU were of the upper-middle class. I said you were of the middle class. (upper-middle) — was in reference to my grandparents.
And you have 7 kids? What, do you give 1 day a week of yourself to one kid at a time? I bet your kids rarely ever get one-on-one time with you. You see, kids need that. Maybe you are a crappy mother?
WI MOM:
What are you going to do when your husband leaves you and you have no education to back yourself up when go out to apply for a job so you can take care of your HUGE family?
I’ll see you at Wal-Mart!!!!
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